Indeed, children tend to adapt quickly, but it should be clarified that such adaptation often takes a heavy emotional toll on their young soul, and in my estimation, insofar as it is not a parental and/or significant figure in her life, there is a question of whether the price the minor will have to bear is correct and holds her well-being.
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In my opinion, the renewal of contact in a relationship of crisis and mistrust between the adults involved may create an unbearable weight on the minor's shoulders.
A child who develops survival skills in crisis and ongoing situations may create a split between his behavior in his home and his behavior in the visiting room.
In such situations, the child may reduce his emotions to the point of detaching himself from them in order to please the adults while keeping himself from being hurt.
This inauthentic behavior can have far-reaching consequences on the child's emotional and mental state.
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In similar conflict situations, we saw child lecturers who chose to tell each side what they were expected to say. In doing so, they have acquired skills and tools of concealment and lying, which may in the future become pathological and dangerous regarding their emotional state.
In addition, such complex situations may trigger reactions of stress and anxiety that may harm the child's emotional well-being and as a result, color the functioning, routine of life, and the developmental tasks that he faces.
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Insofar as the honorable court decides that there is no reason to grant a judicial parenting order to the applicant in the matter of the minor, I am of the opinion that there is no room for a connection between the two.
In my estimation, the price that the minor will have to bear upon the renewal of the relationship with the plaintiff is unbearable for her. This emotional toll outweighs the need to renew and maintain the relationship, in the event that a parenting relationship between the two is not established.
It should be emphasized that the minor's mother once again rejects the plaintiff's version and strongly opposes her granting the request for a judicial parenting order, and therefore this situation raises a real concern that the minor will be subjected to a constant turbulent conflict of loyalty. Hence, I believe that there is a heavy emotional price for renewing a relationship under such a heavy conflict and it is not right to allow it unless, as stated, it is a parental figure, and then, as I mentioned, there is room for an in-depth examination and therapeutic intervention.
- She also believes that the minor needs emotional therapy around the plaintiff's character, and these are her words (at p. 10):
"At the same time, since I still believe that from the therapeutic perspective, the interruption that was created in the minor's life around the sudden disappearance of the plaintiff from her life, given the high probability of her presence in her life during the plaintiff and the defendant's joint residence for about two years, and in light of the impression of the possibility of confusion in the minor's life as a result, and the question of her understanding of her life story, it is still important to include the minor in emotional therapy that will enable her to to process and provide her with a clearer understanding of the narrative of her life.